Both my husband and I were faced with betrayal and disappointment on many levels, but the growth we experienced as sentient human beings was so valuable, that I'm glad we endured the hardships. We have truly become stronger and wiser people, and our professional and personal directions are solid!
Just as I've literally gotten rid of a lot of clutter in preparation for our big move this June (we have a huge "garage sale" pile!), I've decided to rid myself of a bunch of emotional garbage as well. No time like the present, and the dawn of a new year is always inspiring - with it being a clean slate and all!
Every "thing" I'm getting rid of (or have already) is like a weight around the neck, or maybe like a power sink - extremely draining of my energy!
OK, here goes. I'm getting rid of...
1. Unhealthy attachments to people. There are some people (even family members) who we feel we "should" like or love, for whatever reason. Maybe that person has influence or some kind of social or political power, maybe our only bond is that our friends are friends, or maybe we are just holding on to a relationship that has morphed and changed so much, that it has become unhealthy.
This is a hard one, but to live a genuine life full of meaning, one must trim the fat. Why put energy into a relationship that hurts you? For example, it's one thing to argue or debate (once you really get to know someone, who doesn't?), but to put yourself in a situation where you are constantly judging and not LOVING each other is bad.
I've always felt that true friends could debate or argue, have opposing views, and even irritate the shit out of each other! But at the end of the day, week, month, year, they come back together and love each other even MORE than before. Isn't that the mark of a true friend - that they see your imperfections and flaws, and yet continue to love you? I have quite a few friends (and family members) like this.
Unfortunately, there are attributes that I can't abide in any relationship, and no one should. People who lie to you are bastards, and should be cut off. People who disrespect you or try to dominate you - done. People you can't trust, or who don't have your back - DONE. It's always disappointing to find that you've been betrayed by a friend or family member, but it's EMPOWERING to cut the cord and move on!...Next!
2. Unforgiveness, I'm getting rid of it - to the extent that I can. (Haha! See that qualifier in there?) But really, with the people in my life whom I love, I will be more forgiving.
I've always said that I can hold a nasty grudge - and I can. But really, it's pointless, isn't it? Sure there are things that hurt me when I remember them, but... I know that I've hurt people, too. Who hasn't? And isn't receiving forgiveness such a relief? It is a truly good feeling to be forgiven.
So, I aim to forgive - and move forward in a loving manner. It's one thing to forgive superficially, with words alone. It's quite another to forgive, and move forward with with warmth for that person, and to show them immense love.
3. I aim to be less negative, more compassionate, more understanding. I aim to look for and see the positive in life, situations, and people. I aim to be less critical of MYSELF (that's a big one) and of others.
4. I aim to make my bed every day, and floss daily. :)
5. I will let go of disappointment and hurt feelings, and move forward as a stronger, happier, more confident, and therefore more beautiful woman! I will be INSPIRED by my family and friends, and there is a lot to be inspired by!! I aim to live life to the fullest!
WELCOME 2012!
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